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National Coming Out Day 2019: Confessing About My Sexuality to My Parents Was Tough… But Worth It In the End

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October 11 is celebrated in the United States as National Coming Out Day, a day that louds up many "upcoming" stories. Whether they bring a smile to your face or shed stray tears to leave your eyelids, each inspires you, overwhelms you and makes you feel whole. While we usually share celeb greens, I decided to share my own upcoming story with you. You are in for one hell of a ride, buckle up, peek.& # 39; Gay for J&K, article 370 is homophobic & # 39 ;: LGBT activists storm Kashmir event in London.

Hijra, Chhakka, gudd, Maamu And paanti… These are among the few abuses that my school bullies fired on me. It all started when I was in class eight. An agile boy, I knew exactly what those words meant. But I also knew that they did not define me. Bullying breaks you, and that's when you don't understand why you are different from the rest. My internal transition – an ah-maze, nevertheless – began when I was in sixth grade. My inclination towards saris, jewelery, makeup, dresses and even the color pink was a stamp of affirmation that shouted, "I am hatke. "But, it came with its own dangers. Indifferent to the darkness around me and lost in my own exuberance, I experienced my first attack. I still remember my first encounter with a boy, when I was physically abused in a male washroom in school, when I was in ninth grade. I know what you're thinking – why didn't I report back then and there? It takes guts to come out and talk about the stories of your attack, and more if you are not yet open about your sexuality. I was scared.

And for a good reason. My ride has been bumpy. I had a tortured past, from being sexually harassed and blackmailed by men in local trains and threatened with murder. At the time, I didn't have the courage to say out loud "I AM GAY!" A major reason for my lack of confidence was that I had not yet left for my family. My parents never questioned my attitude from the beginning, including liking my "all" things. If I spoke the truth and spoke out loud, I was afraid of losing them.

Finally, in the month of March 2015, I decided to talk to my parents about my sexuality. The night after Holi, I opened them and said three words: "I am gay." I still remember It was midnight. While the silence of a world sleeping outside shook the walls of our house, my parents listened to my truth. And then he said what all the parents tell their children: "We will talk about it in the morning," hoping that it will become a bad dream, and the next day their life will return to normal. The next morning and then one more followed by many more. But the morning my parents promised did not come for about four months. This was the most difficult phase of my life, when my parents ignored me. You can fight anyone outside, but how can you fight your loved ones? Every night my pillow got wet with my tears. Imagine my suffering – being with my family and enduring their rejection; His thumbs up for my existence. This was the darkest period of my life. Sushant Digvikar created Div Herstory by becoming the first drag queen to walk on the All India 2019 red carpet! (See pics).

But it was to end, right? I don't know what came over me. But exactly four months later, when I told my parents about my sexuality, I contacted my parents once more, and said these words: "I know you both love me, But just because I'm gay, you can't ignore me and feel like I'm a criminal. If this behavior continues, I would like to leave the house and stay away. " I bless Timan, but I went with my parents after these words you speak, begin to change things in my life. My mom and dad finally accepted me and I couldn't believe it. Maybe, being an only child also helped. Whatever the reason, I got what I needed – their acceptance. Cut to 2019, it's been four years since I came for my family. Things are so different now that my parents and I also discuss about my future husband. Born into a typical Gujarati family, openly, I never expected my parents to be this quiet. I am afraid of nothing. If I have such confidence today, the credit goes to my parents and their gestures. Trust me, it means a lot!

For many LGBTQ + people, even today, coming out of the closet is tough. There are many who feel that if they do, they will insult their family. There are other people who are rejected by the family for coming out as gay or bisexual. But in the end the choice to wear Rainbow Tiara is yours and yours. You want to come out without any fear or pressure.

Even now, however, in a world where Section 377 is history and Indian law no longer criminalizes homosexuality, it still insists that two people of the same sex cannot marry. The battle is still long and never over. With its deep cultural taboos and laws that perpetuate the conflict, India will not be a truly democratic nation for the LGBTQ + community unless every rainbow-dominant leads the violence and prejudice of life and with dignity Moves On this special day, it feels great to add my voice, out loud and with pride. Shout out my lovelies; You too are worth listening to. Ta-da!

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